The Art of the Random Hookup: Etiquette, Safety & Zero Awkwardness
Sometimes, the vibes are right, the chemistry is there, and hooking up with a new person is on the cards- no shame in that!
But before you take things to the bedroom, there are a few things to keep in mind; safety, respect, and a little social finesse.
1. Trust Your Gut (And Your Friends)
If something doesn’t feel right (the situation, your headspace, or just getting the ick), there’s no pressure to keep things going. It doesn’t matter if you have great banter, or the person you met is totally your type- you can stop any time you want, and “no” is a complete sentence.
Even if things are going great, make sure you let your friends know where you're going and who you’re going with! Share your location, send a quick “I’ll check in later” text, or have a buddy system in place.
2. Safe Sex = Smart Sex
STIs may not be the sexiest thing to think about, but keeping yourself protected won’t kill the mood. Condoms and/or dental dams are non-negotiable- the only surprises you want after a night out are brunch plans, not an unexpected visit to the clinic.
3. Consent Isn’t Just Sexy- It’s Required
Hookups should be fun, not stressful. Make sure to check in with your partner, be clear about boundaries, and communicate openly. Enthusiastic consent means both of you are 100% into what’s happening, from the first kiss to wherever things go from there.
Remember: consent can be revoked at any time! If something seems off, call it off.
4. What happens next?
Waking up next to someone new can be an awkward chat: maybe you’re keen to explore more, or you’d rather just go your separate ways. Either way, honesty is key.
If you need them to bounce, be polite but direct. If you’re hoping for cuddles or a coffee debrief, gauge their vibe. No pressure either way- for you or for them!
Hooking up should be about fun, safety, and mutual enjoyment. Whether it’s a one-time thing or the start of something more, the golden rule applies: treat them how you’d want to be treated!
