Let’s be real—sex is everywhere. From TikTok deep dives to awkward school lectures, we’re surrounded by conversations about it. But when it comes to actually talking about sex, intimacy, and relationships in real life? That can feel… well, a bit weird.

Maybe it’s the way we were taught (or not taught) about sex. Maybe it’s the fear of saying the wrong thing. Or maybe it’s just the general awkwardness of discussing something so personal. Whatever the reason, a lot of us grow up thinking that sex talk = embarrassment.

But here’s the truth: the more we normalise these conversations, the less weird they feel—and the better choices we can make for ourselves.

Why Does Sex Talk Feel So Uncomfy?

If you’ve ever dodged a convo about sex like it’s a live grenade, you’re not alone. There are a few reasons why this topic can feel so loaded:

• It’s been treated as taboo. If you grew up in an environment where sex wasn’t openly discussed, it’s no surprise that it feels weird to bring up now.
• Fear of judgment. No one wants to say the “wrong” thing or feel like they don’t know enough.
• Conflicting messages. One minute, sex is everywhere in pop culture. The next, it’s something we’re supposed to keep hush-hush. No wonder we’re confused.
• A lack of good sex ed. If all you got was a slideshow of STI symptoms and a vague warning about “waiting for the right time,” you might not feel prepped for actual conversations about pleasure, boundaries, and consent.

The Upside of Normalising Sex Talks

Yeah, it might feel awkward at first, but getting comfortable talking about sex and relationships is worth it. Here’s why:

• You make better choices. Understanding things like consent, pleasure, and STI prevention means you’re in control of your own experiences.
• Less pressure, more confidence. The less mystery and shame surrounding sex, the easier it is to figure out what feels right for you.
• Stronger relationships. Open conversations—whether with friends, dates, or partners—lead to healthier, more respectful connections.
• You’re not alone. First-time nerves, self-doubt, figuring out boundaries—everyone has questions. Talking about them helps us realise we’re all in this together.

How to Ease Into Talking About It

Not used to open convos about sex? That’s totally fine. Here are a few ways to start:

• Find reliable sources. Websites like Family Planning NSW have solid, no-BS info.
• Start small. Chat about relationships, boundaries, or pop culture moments with friends you trust—no need to jump straight into deep talks.
• Do what feels right for you. You don’t have to talk about sex if you’re not comfortable. But knowing that you can, without shame, is powerful.

At the end of the day, sex and relationships are part of life—but how you engage with them is entirely up to you. The more we talk about them openly, the less pressure, confusion, and awkwardness we feel. So, let’s ditch the weirdness and have real, honest conversations. You in?