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Today, we're getting back to all of your burning questions. Covering everything from your spit to your sex drive, it's time to go deep- no, deeper!

1. Why does my partner mirror me? Immediately after I say something, he says that even he is going through it or feeling it.

It’s common for some people to mirror their partner’s experiences or feelings as a way of showing empathy or trying to connect. For example, if you share something vulnerable, your partner may respond by disclosing something similar to build closeness. Sometimes, however, it can feel dismissive if it seems they are shifting focus. Healthy communication, such as expressing how you feel when it happens can help clarify intentions. If this pattern troubles you, consider exploring it together with open conversation.

2. Is using spit as lube safe for masturbation?

Saliva is not the safest or most effective lubricant. While it may provide temporary moisture, it dries quickly and can increase friction, which may cause irritation. Additionally, saliva can carry bacteria or viruses, raising the risk of infection, especially with shared use. A water-based or silicone-based lubricant is recommended.

3. I'm a queer gay man in my 30s and I realised that every time when I'm trying to have sex with another person where I'm trying to top them I couldn't make myself hard. It just comes and go and sometimes never does. I don't know if it's because of masturbation and porn that desentisised me, or my anxiety, or the expectation. Do I need to start medication now like using Viagra?

Erectile difficulties can be influenced by several factors like performance anxiety, stress, pornography use, expectations or underlying health conditions. This does not automatically mean you need medication like Viagra. Often, addressing lifestyle, mental health and sexual pressure can help. If the issue persists, consulting a doctor or sexual health specialist is the best step, they can assess whether medication, therapy or other support would be most helpful.

4. Does PCOS affect sexual drive?

Yes, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) can affect sexual desire for some people, due to hormonal imbalances, mood changes or physical symptoms like pain or body image concerns. However, experiences vary widely. Some people with PCOS notice no change or even increased libido. If you feel PCOS is affecting your sexual well-being, it’s a good idea to discuss it with your doctor, who can recommend treatments or strategies tailored to your needs.

5. She/her|How many times a day/week is it okay to masturbate for a female?

There’s no universal “right” number of times. Masturbation is a healthy and normal activity, whether once a month, daily or several times a week. What matters is whether it feels good, doesn’t interfere with daily life or relationships and isn’t causing physical irritation. If you’re concerned about frequency or experiencing discomfort, speaking with a healthcare professional can provide reassurance.

6. I heard that it's common in Australia for people to have sex before marriage, but I'm not sure how common it actually is. I come from a culture where people usually wait, so I've never really talked about this with Aussies directly. How should I react or respond if I'm in that kind of conversation or situation?

Cultural norms vary, but in Australia, many people do have sex before marriage and it is generally socially accepted. However, everyone’s values are different and respecting your own boundaries is important. If the topic comes up, you don’t have to disclose personal details, you can respond neutrally, change the subject or simply express your perspective. Ultimately, it’s about staying true to your own values while respecting others’.

7. What to do if ur male partner is not as interested as you thought they should be around sexual things? It feels very awkward to be the one always initiating and makes me feel desperate |(She /her)

It’s very common for couples to experience different levels of sexual desire and this doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with either of you. Sexual interest can be affected by many factors such as stress, fatigue, health, mood or simply natural differences in libido. The most helpful step is to talk openly and kindly with your partner. You might say something like: “I’ve noticed I’m usually the one initiating and sometimes that makes me feel a bit unwanted. Can we talk about how intimacy feels for you?” Approaching the conversation without blame creates space for honesty. You could also explore other forms of intimacy together like cuddling, kissing or sharing activities that strengthen emotional closeness. Sometimes, building connection outside the bedroom helps increase comfort and desire inside it.

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Disclaimer: The information and responses provided are general in nature and are for informational purposes only. They do not constitute medical, health or professional advice. Always seek the guidance of a qualified healthcare professional regarding any questions or concerns about your health or medical condition.