This is the “relationship” you end up with when you exchange Snapchat usernames after only a few messages on Tinder because one (or maybe both) of you has their “notifications turned off for Tinder”. Maybe you weren’t expecting much, but suddenly you’re both sexting and it’s getting hot and spicy and now you’re making plans to see each other next Tuesday.
Tuesday rolls around and one (or maybe both) of you no longer feels up to it and you (or they) cancel. With this, the vicious cycle begins. A round of sexting, a promise to meet, a cancellation and repeat. If this sounds all too familiar…congratulations, you’re in a sext-uation!
It’s like a real relationship, except it’s not. It’s not exactly a friends with benefits type thing, but they’re also not the person you start calling your SO. It’s the calm before the storm, the “relationship” before the relationship. You’re dating but not really dating and you never really know what to call them when your friends ask. It’s always “we’re seeing each other” or even better, “we’re just going with the flow”.
You never discuss ~the future~ and you never really talk about anything deep or meaningful. All of your conversations seem to focus strictly on the here and now. You’re way past cute dinner dates and now gleefully spend your nights binge-watching Netflix shows in bed before falling asleep together. What are you? Neither of you know. The “talk” seems so far away and yet so near at the same time. What are you? In a situationship, that's what.
3. NSA, FWB, etc.
No matter what acronym you use, it’s pretty straightforward what kind of relationship you’ve chosen to be in. As fun as they are in bed, they just aren’t that fun out of it. Their best assets are well…in that word. Sure, they’re not a terrible person; they’re just not the kind of person you really want to be with. It’s nothing personal. In fact, it’s completely impersonal. You never really talk much, although your lips do a fair amount of work in the time you spend together.
In the words of R. Kelly, there’s nothing wrong with a little bump and grind. You really only land yourself into these kinds of relationships if you really want to and in all honesty, who are we to judge? Add in YOLO to that acronym collection and just live your life the way you want to. Despite what most people say about NSAs and FWBs, it really all comes down to what you want and if you want something without strings and all the benefits, go for it!
This is the kind of relationship you find yourself in when one (or both) of you has decided to ghost in and out of whatever you were. This is the guy (or girl) who takes at least 2 months to text back and it’s all good and great for about a week or two until they ghost you once again. You never really know when you’re going to text back when you say “talk soon” and you’re never quite sure what “see you later” means, but it’s all good in the hood. Neither of you are up for any sort of commitment.
Sure, you had a good time at the bar last night and you even took them home but part of you isn’t expecting to wake up to them the next morning. You’re longest conversations usually only start with “hey, u up?” kind of texts and these kinds of texts take about 4-6 weeks in between them. It’s nothing personal, it’s just the way the ghosting works. Sometimes they really only pop up again once you’ve forgotten them or vice versa, but it’s always good when you take a blast to the past.
You’re reading that right. An actual relationship is possible to achieve via Tinder. Although it may be rare and only few really say that they met on Tinder, it’s definitely possible. Sometimes Tinder is just a stepping stone for people to meet likeminded individuals and there is always that rare unicorn on Tinder who’s there looking for love. Sure, they seem delusional but hey, if they can actually find love on Tinder, kudos to them!
I’m not going to lie, I’m a little jealous of people who can find love on Tinder, but also, you get whatever you’re looking for. If you want a little hit-it-and-quit-it action, you can easily find that but if you want something deep and meaningful (like your late night chats with mates over a few too many glasses of wine), that’s totally possible to find too. Whether you believe it or not, it’s totally possible to find someone on Tinder who’s there for a long time and not just a good time.